The Courage Of Self Protection

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One of the most popular sections of our coaching is The Courage Of Self Protection. 

Although this sounds like a physical self-defence course, it goes much deeper than this and focuses on creating an efficient mind fortress, that keeps out unwanted and negative influences. 

This will inevitably include people. 

We are currently living in the times of weak men crating hard times. This means that predators, evil doers and those without honour and integrity are given a free rein, encouraged to have a voice and positions of political power throughout the Western world. 

It has become an essential quality, to be able to defend oneself against the lies, manipulations and harm from individual people and the wider collective types of messages we hear from the media and those in power. 

The courage of self protection is an interesting and exciting as it is potentially world changing in its application. It does mean though, that personal responsibility must also be elevated to a level way beyond its current existence. 

Know your enemy

Those seeking to control and take advantage of others have normally learnt how to do so from a very early age, possibly as young as 6-7 years old. 

They gradually learn simple and later, more complex, longer term strategies to do this. 

They are constantly looking for ways to get power, take advantage over others and often will embroil you in dramas that aren’t real and get into your emotions to make you frightened and uncertain. 

They entangle themselves in your life, either on a personal level or from afar. 

They continually wear a mask and know how to wear it efficiently enough to appear charming, interested in you, helpful, pleasing and even charismatic. 

I have spoken to a lot of women and men that fell for the predator who used all of these guises. My own masterclass from three of these men as a child, has given me an inbuilt radar to detect this type of person now. 

This is not unique behaviour to men, women do this too but use different tactics and approaches. 

The best thing you want to develop in life is the radar to detect them before you get involved. 

I knew a guy once who would always put himself forward for emotional support to his friend’s wives and girlfriends. It was all a ploy, he would use their vulnerability to get close and once there was an issue between a particular couple, he would make his move and try to entice her towards him. 

The predator uses fake concern, false promises, charm and anything else in their arsenal of manipulation to take advantage. 

The Way 

Lets look at some basic ways to make better decisions when faced with an individual, a group or an organisation. 

1. Pay attention to lies. 

Lying is the mother of all vice and you can be certain those that lie, are also indulging other vices too. People program themselves to lie to get what they want. Lying warps our natural instincts until we only act and speak in untruth. Lies should not be overlooked, they are a strong warning. 

2. Do they pass all of the risk onto you? 

We can observe most people who use and harm others do so without personal risk. It’s normally the victim that loses the most. The idea of having ‘skin in the game’ was once the standard protocol of a man worth listening to and following but coward culture now shifts the risk almost entirely onto others. The vaccine and political institutions are obvious and proven examples of this. 

3. Do they stand for anything? 

Men without honour make up a lot of the collective these days. They stand for nothing and yet fall for anything. Men who stand for nothing are always serving their own interests and their words are often unreliable and incongruent with their actions.

One should not expect such a man to stand for you and caution should be applied in just how much trust is handed to such a man. 

4. Trust your gut. 

I have spoken to many men and women who informed me they had a bad feeling about the particular person before they were take advantage of. 

Trust your gut, never ignore the warning signs and if in doubt, wait. Gather information about this person where you can. 

5. Don’t be impressed by status. 

The stoics warned us not to be awestruck by status and title because this will leave you open to manipulation. Celebrity, titles and positions of power are in no way reflective of a high moral status.

In fact, many of these people are more owned than anyone else. Some years back, I knew a friend who was conned out of thousands of pounds by the husband of a TV personality. She had a feeling something was wrong but he used charm and his status to set her up for the fall. 

Treat each man equally with respect and integrity and never assume status means a high moral standard.

Many are willing to sell their souls in exchange for success. This is not the warriors way and the price you pay will be immense. 

6. Stand and speak with power. 

Modern times have men now unable to communicate efficiently. There is a language of the body that emits power or weakness. 

Be a physical force. This will add conviction to your words and actions. Stand up straight and look someone in the eyes when you are speaking to them.

Hold yourself in a serious manner. A persona of power will send predators away from you.